Just trying this to see if there is any help available to me. My mother definitely has dementia but is undiagnosed because she refuses to go to the memory clinic. I have been concerned about her for over a year but she is now worse, although still in the very early stages. She refuses all help, will not allow me to get carers to support her with bathing (she was recently stuck in the bath for over 4 hours), support with meals and cleaning. She is not eating properly and refuses all offers of help from me. She will not allow me to do any house cleaning for her and does not cooperate with me at all. If her GP now refers her for any reason he mentions her memory problems. He has spoken to her very kindly and firmly to tell her not to get in the bath anymore (she's ignoring that) and that she must eat and made suggestions about ready meals; meals on wheels etc. I have been shopping with her to get some quality ready meals: they remain in the freezer. Our relationship has been poor for as long as I can remember and now I simply do not know what to do. What should I try to do for her to ensure that she is safe? (if she allows it of course). If someone would just tell me what to do I could have a go at doing it. But I will not do personal care. I am looking after her out of duty; but I am very worried and concerned for her and wish she would help me to help her.