My dad has recently been diagnosed with age related dementia. He has been in hospital for 11 weeks and is due to move to a care home soon. The hospital tell me nothing and just say I will find out what I need to know when he goes to the care home. My issue is no one seems to be able to answer my questions and I feel like I am losing the plot and worry I am not making the right decisions for him. He has a severe toilet obsession ( which is what sent him in hospital in the first place when he "willed" his bladder to stop working), he no longer wants to walk, he asks for a wheelchair all of the time, won't dress or clean himself and expects carers and family to do all of these things for him including taking him to the loo. He won't participate in ANY activity, won't watch the TV as " they only show 30 second extracts" will only talk about how Ill he is and if he isn't talking about that he is asleep or is asking to be left alone to sleep. I have looked up all the websites I can but nothing seems to match up with his behaviours. Is there anyone on this forum who has experienced anything similar as I feel very alone. I am desperate to do what is right for him but don't know what that is!