Hi all,
Having a bad day and need to let off steam. Mum is giving the milk i buy her to the cats that visit her back door and hinding the bottles so no-one will tell her off for using it for them. Thus the carers who come in of a morning are having to bring her more milk and think i am not taking her any. She hides her medication, for what reason i have no idea, so they think she has none. Each night I put it back into place and by morning it has disappered and the carers think i have neglected to sort it for her. I leave money in her care file for shopping, but she gets in a state thinking i havent left her any and tells everyone who sees her i am not giving her any of her money. She has run up huge phone bills that cannot be payed by constnatly ringing the speaking clock so now the phone has been cut off and everyone is asking me why, and that where is her money to pay for it to be put on. I was critised today for buying a couple of cheap gifts for mum to give close family, that it was a voilation of her rights as i used her money. All I was doing was trying to make her feal useful and not left out when she is given presents. She asked me to, I wanted to take some worry off of her.
The social worked rang today, to tell me what has been said. Luckily she is understanding and the money and medication was found later under cushions in the living room.
But what really hurts is that mum doesnt seem to trust me, and seems to be going to her friend instead when she needs help, this friend acts supportive and promises to sort things out. Then promptly calls me to tell me what needs to be done without doing a thing. It feals like she is being turned against me, that people view me as young, and incapable. Its very upsetting. I'm so depressed. As it is, I pay a lot of her bills and debts out of my own money as she has run up as lot in the early stages of the illness.
Sorry everyone. I guess its just been one of them days.
Thanks for listening.
Having a bad day and need to let off steam. Mum is giving the milk i buy her to the cats that visit her back door and hinding the bottles so no-one will tell her off for using it for them. Thus the carers who come in of a morning are having to bring her more milk and think i am not taking her any. She hides her medication, for what reason i have no idea, so they think she has none. Each night I put it back into place and by morning it has disappered and the carers think i have neglected to sort it for her. I leave money in her care file for shopping, but she gets in a state thinking i havent left her any and tells everyone who sees her i am not giving her any of her money. She has run up huge phone bills that cannot be payed by constnatly ringing the speaking clock so now the phone has been cut off and everyone is asking me why, and that where is her money to pay for it to be put on. I was critised today for buying a couple of cheap gifts for mum to give close family, that it was a voilation of her rights as i used her money. All I was doing was trying to make her feal useful and not left out when she is given presents. She asked me to, I wanted to take some worry off of her.
The social worked rang today, to tell me what has been said. Luckily she is understanding and the money and medication was found later under cushions in the living room.
But what really hurts is that mum doesnt seem to trust me, and seems to be going to her friend instead when she needs help, this friend acts supportive and promises to sort things out. Then promptly calls me to tell me what needs to be done without doing a thing. It feals like she is being turned against me, that people view me as young, and incapable. Its very upsetting. I'm so depressed. As it is, I pay a lot of her bills and debts out of my own money as she has run up as lot in the early stages of the illness.
Sorry everyone. I guess its just been one of them days.
Thanks for listening.