My husband refuses to shower or wash and it is with great difficulty and through much aggression from him that I get him to use a toothbrush at all. He uses pads day and night, has mixed dementia and spastic quadraparesis and bladder difficulties resulting from bladder cancer ( in remission). He also sleeps for at least 12 hours, great, it gives me 'me ' time in the mornings. I have had success in using medi wipes to keep him clean but he will not allow me to use them on his face. I manage to give his face a cursory wipe in spite of his protests most days. I have been able to get tasteless toothpaste after he said he hated the taste but this has made little difference to his willingness to clean his teeth and freshen his mouth when he gets up. He will not let me near his hair or beard although I have been doing this for 27 years and recently agreed to visit my hairdresser to have a shave and haircut. Is this refusal to keep clean common? Has anyone found a solution other than the ones I use. He used to agree to showers together but even that doesn't work anymore.