Dad is middle stage and still living at home with mum. I think she is approaching carer burnout and I want to help before a crisis occurs. I have already registered with a lovely local care home for possible respite after Christmas, but what specific questions do I need to ask them about how they deal with his behaviour when he won’t want to be there?
His incontinence is increasing and he absolutely denies it when it happens. He cannot do anything for himself at all, although Mum thinks he can and that he is just treating her like a maid! He shadows her everywhere which must be so wearing for her.
I have POA (finance and health) for both of them so can I just book him in for respite and pay for it with his account?
Will the care home do their own assessment to say if he will be ok to come home again after the 2 weeks of respite?
How do I persuade mum and dad that respite is necessary?
Any advice gratefully received!
His incontinence is increasing and he absolutely denies it when it happens. He cannot do anything for himself at all, although Mum thinks he can and that he is just treating her like a maid! He shadows her everywhere which must be so wearing for her.
I have POA (finance and health) for both of them so can I just book him in for respite and pay for it with his account?
Will the care home do their own assessment to say if he will be ok to come home again after the 2 weeks of respite?
How do I persuade mum and dad that respite is necessary?
Any advice gratefully received!