May I join? I was my husband's sole carer for four years (now in nursing home) and like you had to cope with awful stuff. I kept two blue overalls, similar to nurses uniform, and when faced with awful cleaning job, used to put one on and pretend I was a nurse!! Mad, I know, but it distanced it a bit. Also kept cleaning up kit upstairs and downstairs, lots of nappy wipe things, kitchen roll, etc, etc, all together in wicker basket, so stuff at hand immediately. And lots of dog poo bags to drop soiled stuff in. Plus rubber gloves. All helped me to move quickly. Even so, am having to replace carpets in several rooms, industrial hygenic cleaning having failed to remove the stain and smell. So if you can find a way that works to protect carpets, that is great. My OH just removed anything I put down for protection and stuffed it down the toilet.
My dear, you are not alone. Thank you for letting me join. Gx