This is an illness like no other. It tests the carers mental and physical strength, emotional endurance, and temperament to the nth degree. What it is doing to the person with dementia depends on the type of dementia and many different kinds and symptoms are discussed on TP. We look at others posts and think how much worse other people are finding their life and that helps to keep us going. In truth if you are the person doing the caring then your problem is your problem whatever anyone else is going through.I just want to say to all those caring and juggling life and everyone’s post has made me cry and think I’m not the only one going through all that. It helps me understand my situation in some ways are better and some worst but still I’m standing.
I’m approaching my 40 soon and I’ve been caring for my mother for the last 20 years in her own home but since last two years she had a stroke and has had dementia she’s had to move in with me due to needing full time care. I work part time, Have young children to look after too. Husband isn’t in the best of health either and he needs care too. Life isn’t the same anymore I can’t switch off both physically and mentally exhausted.
Work is break for me otherwise I’d have a complete breakdown, my colleagues are in their 60’s and fully understand the pressure of caring for someone with dementia how mentally challenging it can be. Sometimes I wish I could be left on a island with no worries, I don’t know what the future holds but one peace of mind I have is my mother is with me no matter how hard it is.
@Amber17 you are a young mother which is to me the most important job you will ever do. Your own mother obviously did a good job when you care so much about her. All of this will push you to your limits so you have to plan now how to get all the help you can. This might mean personal care help in getting her washed, dressed and fed or day care centres which will keep her entertained. Make enquiries about how you can get this started. The earlier the better. Please make sure you have Power of Attorney in place for Finance and Health and Welfare either through a solicitor or by downloading the forms and doing it yourself which is much cheaper. Register immediately whichever you do.
Ask on here if there is a specific problem you are dealing with or if you just need to vent your feelings. Best regards.