My mum is now (we think & have been advised by GP) is in middle stages
has yet to have an MRI (booked for next week)
we have Social Services on the case - but as mum is still very independent and lives on her own quite well - they will review her case in the New Year.
things have become quite difficult in the last month - we have seen a rapid detioriation in her short term memory - considerably so much, since her beloved dog & companion since dad died) was put to sleep a month ago.
She blames myself & my husband for 'killing her dog without telling her ' (she was with us at vets!! ) and the nightly phone calls have increased & decreased depending on what mood she is
One night -no calls -last night 10 calls.
I ask the question to how hard you think you have become -because the calls don't bother me at all - i just repeat my mantra -even though i'm being sworn at / shouted at / phone slammed down'
She has not become physically agressive, however, my mums core personaility has always been feisty - so the dementia does truly bring this out - i suspect a physical attack may well happen.
of course it makes me so sad and i seem to have a permanant headache ....... but i feel that i am less of mums daughter and not even so much a carer as have a brother & husband who are brilliant with mum and we all work full time - so visits are once / twice through the week for an hour & every weekend.
When she has a good day & laughs about stuff -i feel that all is ok with the world and then BAM, back to the reality of Dementia world with a bang once mum 'sundowns' and in her fragmented mind -another weird & wonderful story pops up and she has to call me to accuse / shout etc.........
Think i've rambled on - sorry. just wanted to air!
Sas
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has yet to have an MRI (booked for next week)
we have Social Services on the case - but as mum is still very independent and lives on her own quite well - they will review her case in the New Year.
things have become quite difficult in the last month - we have seen a rapid detioriation in her short term memory - considerably so much, since her beloved dog & companion since dad died) was put to sleep a month ago.
She blames myself & my husband for 'killing her dog without telling her ' (she was with us at vets!! ) and the nightly phone calls have increased & decreased depending on what mood she is
One night -no calls -last night 10 calls.
I ask the question to how hard you think you have become -because the calls don't bother me at all - i just repeat my mantra -even though i'm being sworn at / shouted at / phone slammed down'
She has not become physically agressive, however, my mums core personaility has always been feisty - so the dementia does truly bring this out - i suspect a physical attack may well happen.
of course it makes me so sad and i seem to have a permanant headache ....... but i feel that i am less of mums daughter and not even so much a carer as have a brother & husband who are brilliant with mum and we all work full time - so visits are once / twice through the week for an hour & every weekend.
When she has a good day & laughs about stuff -i feel that all is ok with the world and then BAM, back to the reality of Dementia world with a bang once mum 'sundowns' and in her fragmented mind -another weird & wonderful story pops up and she has to call me to accuse / shout etc.........
Think i've rambled on - sorry. just wanted to air!
Sas
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