Thankyou one million times for this thread.I am new to this site and have reached the end of the road where Mom is concerned.I have got older brothers and for several years have expressed my concerns to them about moms behaviour towards people and the increasing verbal aggresion towards me and my family.They would only say that she was only acting like any normal 84 yr old.
Over the last year things have got horrendous.She has gone into near blind rages at me and my husband and our children, but worse are the stories that she tells people about things that we have supposed to have done to her.
My hubby apparantly tried to attack her with a knife.
My daughters have stolen money from her.
I have tried to turn my brothers against her.
I have cut the brakes on her mobility scooter.
I have tried to poison her.
The list is endless, but unfortunatly she tells these stories to anybody and everybody, and she can be quite "plausable" when she wants so i am concerned that strangers who dont know myself and my family may believe her.My Brothers have told me to ignore what she says , they just sit and listen to her when she starts, they dont challenge her so natrually she takes this as they believe her.
When she falls out with me as is the situation now the stories get even worse, things that i am to upset about to put on here.This latest fall out was over i managed to talk her into seeing the doctor about what had been happening.My brother and i both went with her and the gp did that 10 question memory test, which she sailed through.She has got to have some blood tests done tomorrow, but as far as she is concerned she passed the memory test so that just proves that she is fine.
I apologise now to all who are looking after someone with a mental health problem, i take my hat off to you all, you are better than me, but i am hoping that the tests show that she has got some medical reason as to why she is acting this way as the alternative is that there is nothing wrong with her and she is just a nasty old lady who as she told the man who delivers her drugs last night, hates me with every bone in her body and wishes i had died when i was in a car accident a couple of years ago.That was one statemrnt that she made last night to this man amongst several dreadful, horrible things that i accidently overheard.I felt physically sick and have come home feeling that i never want to see or speak to her again.I feel that ill or not i can never forgive her for what she has said about my family even about her great grandchildren, my grandchildren.The youngest being only 3yrs old.
I really dont want to feel this way but i can't help myself.Should i have done what my brothers did and not challenge her when she comes out with these lies, maybe i should have kept quiet and i wouldn't be in this position now feeling the way i do.
I am sitting here in tears unable to sleep as usual, i just don't know which way to turn.
Sorry for such a long first post but any help or advice would be so very much appreciated
nannydeb