I got mum as far as the first appointment at the memory clinic. After that she had a huge meltdown and refused to go for the scan, she also developed some very strange ideas about me (she's always been quite paranoid and Alzheimer's has taken the breaks off) so I thought that was that, especially as the GP, who actually didn't do at all badly to begin with, said that there was nothing much that could be done until she was a danger blah blah blah...
Her behaviour got worse and prompted me to contact the psychiatrist she saw at the memory clinic. I wrote an email detailing my concers and using words such as 'vulnerable adult' and 'at risk' although it was pretty much accidental if I'm honest! That email resulted in a CPN and a SW becoming involved, for which I'm eternally grateful.
That said, although Aricept was prescribed my mum refused to take it. She has no idea that she's ill and anything done to help her is viewed by her as a conspiracy, so even though she has carers popping in a couple of times a week she doesn't always let them in and she certainly doesn't engage with them, so there's been little progress as far as getting things done as such. She lives in squalor, her diet is quite dodgy, she hasn't washed in a very long time indeed and she has a very loose grasp on reality.
But I'm still very glad that we're in 'the system'. Both the CPN and the SW have been very supportive of my emotional needs and I know that should anything happen they'll swoop in and get things sorted out. I'm no longer on my own with this. In fact I saw my mum on Friday and I was shocked by how confused she was and the state of her and the house (and that's saying something as both she and the house have been in a bit of a state for a while), so I'm going to flag that up and I know I'm going to get a quick response. I don't know what it will result in as far getting some real action as realistically to do that the next step is mum being sectioned, but even just getting a few more carer visits while she's like this will help, even if she refuses to let them in! I can't be there most of the time so other people popping in and seeing her is better than nothing.