Dear
@Roseric
Let me start by sending you my condolences on your loss.
On behalf of all isolated ex carers thank you for that thought. Mum died nearly 14 months ago and god the first year was really tough. Recently several things have helped me move on a bit in a world where I am largely on my own.
1) I got a part time job at nearly 63yo and it gives me a start to a purpose in life.
2) I have just finished dealing with mum’s estate. I will never again take on the draining role of being the executor of an estate. Mum passing was bad, wiping out her physical presence on this world was really hard to do.
3) Some building repairs on the house in May, then buy a small car to get out on some day trips to old favourites of me and my mum. Get into the countryside for some walks in nature.
4) then start on some charity work to give more purpose in my life. The Dementia field is still to raw for me, but possibly a visiting volunteer with Marie Curie.
5) Eating much better now and taking regular exercise. Promoting my physical, mental and emotional health is all WIP projects I am getting into for the longer term.
I have no partner, kids or grandkids. My siblings have their own families and work full time. I now have to learn to live alone well and try and give my future years a sense of purpose. I am not the man I was before I started my caring role. It has left me with many bad memories, but that said it has developed me as a person. I want to help where I can.
Not all sombre. I read a lot and listen to old friends like Beethoven, Mozart, Brahms, etc. Things my caring role gradually removed from my life. The music now lifts me again, whereas I had given up in the latter years of caring for mum as it was just notes if you get my point. Might help but please buy a cheap CD recording of Beethoven’s 4th and 5th piano concertos. Let it wash over you and calm the mind. Works for me every time.