My mum is 83 and was diagnosed with AD six years ago. She has been living for the past four years in a bungalow on an estate where the majority of people are elderly and they look out for one another. I have noticed, however, that as mums condition has worsened the neighbours visits are becoming rarer. Understandable I suppose. Mum doesn't make sense a lot of the time.
Recently she had a urine infection and, as has happened before, this sent her particularly dolally. She came to stay with me. I live an hour's drive away, for ten days. She seemed a lot better and said she wanted to go home. I have been trying to persuade her to come and live me but she won't. She really needs a lot of help now ie washing, dressing, making breakfast etc. Basically she does not seem to do anything except watch the TV.
I decided to get in touch with an agency and arrange for some care every day. I am meeting them next Tuesday. Tonight, the lady that currently goes in twice a day to check on mum rang me and said she thought mum was retreating into herself and needed more stimulation. This suggests to me that if she won't come and stay with me perhaps she would be better going into a care home.
I am really stumped at the moment. If I try to talk to mum about it she doesn't answer me at all. This sudden change in mum's condition since she had the UTI has taken me by surprise. Over the years the deterioration has been gradual.
I would be very grateful for any thoughts any of you have. I have been reading the comments on TP for a long time but this is the first time I have written anything. I don't think I have been so confused about the best thing to do before.
Recently she had a urine infection and, as has happened before, this sent her particularly dolally. She came to stay with me. I live an hour's drive away, for ten days. She seemed a lot better and said she wanted to go home. I have been trying to persuade her to come and live me but she won't. She really needs a lot of help now ie washing, dressing, making breakfast etc. Basically she does not seem to do anything except watch the TV.
I decided to get in touch with an agency and arrange for some care every day. I am meeting them next Tuesday. Tonight, the lady that currently goes in twice a day to check on mum rang me and said she thought mum was retreating into herself and needed more stimulation. This suggests to me that if she won't come and stay with me perhaps she would be better going into a care home.
I am really stumped at the moment. If I try to talk to mum about it she doesn't answer me at all. This sudden change in mum's condition since she had the UTI has taken me by surprise. Over the years the deterioration has been gradual.
I would be very grateful for any thoughts any of you have. I have been reading the comments on TP for a long time but this is the first time I have written anything. I don't think I have been so confused about the best thing to do before.