My mother is 78. My father is 84. She has steadily become more and more confused over the last few years. She has never been diagnosed with dementia. The problems is she refuses point blank to go to the doctor. She has arthritis (can hardly walk). She hardly eats and when she does its confort food chocolate/scones/cakes etc. If I mention maybe going to the doctor she will panic and start crying. its really distressing. My father who cares for her trys his hardest but it must get so difficult for him. She is and always was his best friend. They have never been apart for 52 years and most of their friends are dead now. What can I do to help. I viit at least twice a week but I feel so guilty having conversations with my Dad because my Mum just gets confused or annoyed if she cant remember things. She has good days and bad. We cant force her to go to ger GP but we cant go on like we are. Please help.