Hi Nina its ok
I didn't mean you to take what I said the wrong way. Having read your replies it is obvious you are under a lot of stress so please accept my apologies.
It is good that you have removed the valuables from the house and your Dad has got them in the care home, one less thing to worry about. When my mum was in hospital she always worried about her valuables and asked me to get them out of her house and look after them.
I have never had to deal with social workers but I know they can be hard work. I suggested taking a friend because the SW might be more careful in what she says to you if you have a "witness" because it does sound like she is giving you mixed messages.
Take care
Nina
Hi Soup Runner
Its ok, its just that people don't seem to understand my situation, unfortunately I am an only child and get no support from any family at all. In fact this is an example.
When I visited dad last week with my husband, I saw my uncle visiting, and he asked me if dad was perm yet, I told him no, and I said to him, the meeting is next week, you can come along if you want to and you will know what will happen to your Brother, you know what answer I got from uncle, "Oh, I will have to see" Oh Oh I may be busy" but let me know on the phone he said to me. I said to him, "suit yourself" I live quite far away from my dads borough yet my uncle and cousin live 10mins away. I live an hour away. yet they do nothing to help me. They want me to chase them phoning them to give them information about my fathers care but they don't want to be involved in any of the rigma roll of it all though. Yet its the only Brother he has life. Oh well.
My husband is coming with me to the meeting since my relatives cant be bothered to show up.
I have gotten different information from different people and half the time, I don't know what's wrong or right.
The care home said, your dad def wont go home, so that's when I cleared out the sofa. Then following week she said, oh we are not sure now, I said, well thank you very much, I have cleared out his sofa now. Its a good job I didn't clear out everything else really isn't it, I said to her. Lucky that thank god dads other stuff is still in the house. But its only cause someone said to me, hang on before going ahead. She said your dad wont be going home but where's the proof of this, and that's when I thought, oh god they are right.
But if the SW does send my dad home with another care package and something else happens to him, I will take legal action against her and this happened before, they kept sending him home and he kept getting hurt and injured and falls down the stairs. If he collapsed at home who would know. He lives alone. He even had this girl in her 20's who tried to move into his house and get all his pension money in January. I had a fight to get rid of her. When told the police they were no help at all. I kept telling her to get lost but she was clever con person, she waited until I left and then went there. Cause dads neighbour rang me and said that girls been hanging around again your dads house. She would always come with friends or men as well. When dad was in hospital she stole the key code to dads front door and let herself in and stayed there. Dads mate chucked her out when he went round to check on dads house she was sitting in there with her friends and he physically got hold of her and threw her out. she scumbag girl befriended my dad see, cause my dad would talk to anyone cause he friendly. She befriended old people and conned them out of their money and stayed with them. After that, I was very unwell for about 4 months from all the stress of it all. I even lost work over it as well. I had severe chest infections ongoing for 4 months. This girl even went up the hospital and said to the doctor. I can look after him at home I am his carer. The doctors were suspicious then. She just would not go away. In the end I think she was arrested for holding someone hostage in their own home cause the neighbour that lived near her was told this.