Marmar, while it is true my Mum was best at home in familiar surroundings as evident when my sister took her & my father away for a weekend, to give me a break from caring, towards the end even her own home, and indeed my father were not familiar to her.
My father contributed to Mums dementia misery, as he had no idea... absolutely no idea. Leaving her alone,and compromising her safety.
She had other health issues which had a knock on effect with her Alzheimers.
After 3 years of struggling at home, my Mum went into care 3 months ago.
For her it has been the best thing ever. It was still a very hard decision to make.
You will find that countries like India & China, and indeed in the South Pacific, countries like Samoa, Tonga and Fiji, multiple family members live in the one home to care for one another. Several generations live under one roof. There is also no welfare system or even care system.
In saying that, in New Zealand and in our news lately, we have many immigrants from China, who after completing their residency requirements get NZ Citizenship.
As China had a one child policy, that then allows them to get their parents to emmigrate to NZ under a Family category,
Once their parents have emmigrated to NZ, the children then move to Australia using their NZ Passport, leaving their parents behind to fend for themselves pretty much, sending money back to support them financially only.... so in that respect, it seems it is only lack of choices/money in their home country that necessitates them to take care of their parents/grandparents?