Just wanted to add the advice that a friend in a similar situation gave me... that moving home (any home) is best done while the PWD can still make memories. It's this advice that kept me going when my father moved to a care home after living independently for 10 years with our support. He has (eventually) settled, and the home is really lovely... cosy, attentive and I can trust them to care for dad. And he now refers to it as 'home'.
My own caring has not stopped, of course. I visit regularly, look after dad's affairs, take regular calls from him (usually for reassurance), do some shopping etc. Oh, and worry... the worry doesn't stop!
Everyone has their own circumstances to consider, and each situation is different. Our dad had a crisis (a serious fall) and we could no longer cope. Plus, my health wasn't good at the time (cancer diagnosis) and all I could think was "what if I'm not able to care for dad any longer? then what?" So I'm certain that a care home was the best decision for us
My own caring has not stopped, of course. I visit regularly, look after dad's affairs, take regular calls from him (usually for reassurance), do some shopping etc. Oh, and worry... the worry doesn't stop!
Everyone has their own circumstances to consider, and each situation is different. Our dad had a crisis (a serious fall) and we could no longer cope. Plus, my health wasn't good at the time (cancer diagnosis) and all I could think was "what if I'm not able to care for dad any longer? then what?" So I'm certain that a care home was the best decision for us