my time on this site is ended.after only a few years of the dreaded dementia. The love of my life has departed to a better place.
i have escaped the ravages that a lot of you wonderful people have to go through
as Joyce was diagnosed with Pancreatic cancer on the 20/2/12 with the Doc saying may be 9months. she died on the 20/3/12 at home very peacefully.
after a short 15 years of joy and happiness i am now at a loss as to how dos one fill the hole that is left. All the things and places we were going to go and do??
the careing that is the centre of our lives gone!!
my thoughts are with you god bless and thank you for this website and all who have to use it .
Peter.
Hello Peter
My deepest sympathy to you and your family on the loss of your wife
I was particularly struck by the beginning of your post wher you said
" my time on this site has ended"
If my experience is anything to go by I would implore you to continue , use the
forum as often as you feel the need
I too lost my wife before the extreme ravishes of her alzheimers took hold
, she died of a heart attack nearly two years ago.
Since then I have taken great comfort being able to express my thoughts on TP
I have known that someone on here will have had a similar experience or able to lend a sympathetic ear , and often kind words that , particularly in the early days of my loss , helped me to come to terms with te horrible void left when my wife died
There is something very theraputic to being able to put your thoughts into type
Many many times I have felt very emotionaly sad when I have read over my own words ,but I have also felt a relief that I have been able to express myself
I have three sons , but I live alone and I am the last of my generation alive
TP is also a relief valve , it has become like a host of vertual relatives , who I never see but know I can write to ( and it is very rare to not get a response )
Apart from the forum 'support from other members ' thereis the Tea Room where an enormous range of topics are discussed
One major point in my continuing membership , is the knowledge that I have been
spared the terrible experience so many of the members continue to suffer with partners in advanced stages of dementia
I can feel their sorrow when I read of their worries
I have said it many times , and I truly mean it I am devastated with my own loss but I am truly grateful that I have been spared the prolonged agony like so many members are going through
I think by continuing to be a member of TP it will help you in coming to terms with your loss Please give it a try
It has helped me , and I am sure other members will say the same
My thoughts are with you ,ad I hope to see posts from you in the future
God Bless
jimbo 111
