Thank you all again. I think (or hope) things are improving.
Tre, it is such a shame when they know that noise upsets them. I have to say though when I was talking to the Head of Care, she told me that the woman who was shouting was driving them mad too, and that hubby had sat very quietly and remorsefully after - he knows it's not right to push people.
Theresa, you are so rght, I am his security blanket, we have been soulmates for 40 years now, so it's tough. That is why I want the CH to be an extension of our home, and I can spend quality time with him.
Mary. Thanks - I spoke with them today abut food, and suggested they let him eat finger foods, which they did this afternoon and he cleared his plate (with a bit of support from me)
Pied, thank you for your good wishes, when I know you have so much on your plate. I a persevering and optimistic.
Butter, I so appreciate your words. Yes, sadness is tiring (crying makes my face ache!!), but at least I do get off to sleep at night now.
When he saw me this afternoon his whole face lit up, and we had a lovely time together. He tells me he likes it there (phew!) and that people are kind to him. Most of the residents are a lot older than him, but I guess that would be the case in most CHs. He told me he likes the tea now too!! Like a child, I continually praise him for doing the right things, so he feels good about himself.
Thank you all for your support. When there is only me and little dog, sometimes it's hard. Little dog does listen to what I say, but doesn't say too much!!
I shall persevere and hope all works out well, I think it will as the CH seem so supportive in trying to do the right things for both of us. I believe in working together to achieve the best, so let's hope.
Jan xx