His battle is over

intensityp

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Aug 16, 2006
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dad passed away at 3.05am last tuesday (28 nov) at home with my mum and brother and sisters and me all holding him.... the long goodbye is an apt way to describe this vile disease, you think you are prepared but you are not. I never thought we would get to this point so soon and the shock and sadness is so great and overwhelming. Dad was well respected in the community and as i have children to take to school, i am constantly hearing condolenses which I want to run from because I don't want to cry again.. not anymore in public ..
we played his favourite opera at his funeral..madame butterfly
I will always miss him
I will always remember him
I will always love him
I will remember him to my children always
We as a family will take care of mum... so don't worry dad


Do not mourn the cocoon after the butterfly has flown
 

alex

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Apr 10, 2006
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Hi intensityp

Sorry to hear of your loss..........but your dad could not have asked for more......... he was surrounded by the people who loved him, and his suffering is finally over.............i think he would have left the room a happy man.

I'm sure your Dad would want you to look after you now.
Take care
Love Alex x
 

intensityp

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Aug 16, 2006
24
stay strong for mum

I am a wreck at night but keep it together during the day ,and evening spent with mum... broke down big time when dad passed and at funeral but it made mum cry more, I dont want to put my grief on her, I want to support her, I want my dad before AD to give her a huge hug.. my dad adored my mum
enough
 

Tender Face

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Mar 14, 2006
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So sorry at your news .... try not to worry about any 'public' grief ...... it's the measure of respect for your dad that people care to pass on their condolences ... they only knew him - you got to love him and be loved in return..... hurts more, maybe, just now....... but hope sometime you will take some pride and comfort in that thought....

Love, Karen, x
 

Skye

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Aug 29, 2006
17,000
SW Scotland
So sorry for you and your mum at this time. You're being so brave, looking after your mum when you are hurting so much inside. But don't try to be too strong ... you need time to recover yourself. Your friends on TP are all thinking of you.
 

maria29al

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Mar 15, 2006
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I am so sorry to hear your sad news.
Take comfort in the fact that your Dad is happy and healthy again now and with you at all times. He will look after you all. Take the time to grieve...look after yourself and your loved ones.
Thinking of you all,
Hugs
M
x
 

Lila13

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Feb 24, 2006
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I'm sorry about your father.

Glad he was at home with family near him.

Lila
 

mojofilter

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May 10, 2006
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St.Helens
So sorry to hear about your loss, I can only echo the sentiments that have already been posted ....

Thinking about you and your family at this time,

Paul
 

Amy

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Jan 4, 2006
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So sorry intensity p. Your tears may actually help mum express her grief, so don't worry about having to be strong all the time.
"Do not mourn the cocoon, after the butterfly has flown" - a beautiful thought.
Love Helen
 

willemm

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Sep 20, 2006
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Dear intensityp
My thoughts are with you and your family. I know how you are feeling, my wife having passed away on 26th November. Let the grief out, it doesn't matter where or who with, people are very understanding and supportive. You will feel empty and your emotions will play havoc with you, but be strong. Your dad is now at peace, that is what you must remember at all times. Hard as it may be, try to be glad for his sake.
Love and best wishes
Bill
 

BeckyJan

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Nov 28, 2005
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Derbyshire
I am so sorry to hear your news - how lovely that you were all there at your Dad's passing. I feel for you - but I do wonder whether you should contain your grief too much with your Mum - she needs to know that you are sharing the grief with her. (Hard to explain this but I hope you know what I mean). It is normal to be sad, to cry and to miss him - you loved him! An earlier posting said 'now it is time for you to look after you for a while' - that is what your Dad and your Mum would want you to do. (this is me speaking as a Mum).
Take care and remember one step at a time. Best wishes Beckyjan
 
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Helena

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May 24, 2006
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intensity

Sorry about your Dad seems its been a real week of partings on this board

At least they are all now at peace from their torment
 

Grannie G

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Apr 3, 2006
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Dear intensityp, I`m so sorry for the death of your father, but feel you should rejoice in the love within your family. Not everyone has that priviledge.
 

Nell

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Aug 9, 2005
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Thinking of you and of Willem too. So many "goodbyes" onthis board at present. May each and everyone be met by their guardian angels, and may your guardian angel watch over you in this time of sadness. Nell
 

intensityp

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Aug 16, 2006
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Bill

willemm said:
Dear intensityp
My thoughts are with you and your family. I know how you are feeling, my wife having passed away on 26th November. Let the grief out, it doesn't matter where or who with, people are very understanding and supportive. You will feel empty and your emotions will play havoc with you, but be strong. Your dad is now at peace, that is what you must remember at all times. Hard as it may be, try to be glad for his sake.
Love and best wishes
Bill


thank you so much and I am so sorry for your loss, your wife would be very proud of you shining like a beacon and helping others like me..and thank you to each and every one of you for your kind words... this will be my last post .. the butterfly has flown (each and every loved one) .. I will still grieve but i will have more patience and more tolerance and more understanding and more empathy and much more time for so many people and I gained that from my dad...my wonderful dad x