storm said:Dear Rummy,I suppose it depends on the way dementia takes with the person you care for,we have been extremly lucky that mum has never wandered about or been violent ,she is incontinent at night and needs takeing to the toilet at regular times in the day or accidents happen but these things can be dealt with she is depentent on us totally but i am lucky because i can stay home to care for her.It was our choice to do this because she is family and i could not have lived with myself if we hadnt tried.Would i make the same choice again? yes because even if it is hard work and ties you down you do have good times just to hear her laugh at something on TV that maybe only a advert does you good she is happy safe and content thats reward enough,dont get me wrong i am no saint and when shes repeated something for the 100th time i could scream till the timbers rattled!she is part of our lives we accept that and get on with it.I have nothing against homes and are right for some people but i feel we made the right choice so far.I had the dr out today because of her sudden lack of mobility and pain not good news her knee is totally gone and he as given her stronger pain killers,luckly my husband is off work for 2wks so is helping me with the lifting as she cant bear weight at all.Were do we go from here? anyone got any ideas on moving her from bed to commode etc as i really need to be able to do it on my own? STORM
storm said:Hi all, Mum as stunned us all again! from being totally imobile on saturday she walk to the bathroom and i gave her a shower and she as continued making progress since then.I dont know what to make of this but who am i to question it.I was going to phone on monday to try and arrange a hoist for when hubby is back at work i dont know what to think now?I HAVE PUT MY BACK OUT BUT I THINK THAT WAS JUST LIFTING A PIECE OF PAPER OFF THE TABLE trust me. STORM
HI IAM NEW AS WELL JUST FOUND OUT MY MAM HAS ALZHEIMERS IAM SO FRUSTRATED AS NOT NO IN MUCH ABOUT IT IAM WORKIN AT THE THE MIN AND LOOKIN AFTER MY GRANDSON WHO IS TO AND NOW LOOKIN AFTER MAM A LOT MORE AND KNOWING THING R NOT GOING 2 GET BETTER WITH MAM ITS JUST SO SAD FOR EVERY ONE WHO IS GOING THOUGH ALL THIS WE HAVE TO JUST KEEP GOING AND BE STRONG THANKSGBBB said:Hello. I'm a newby from USA. Seems like lots of these posts are from Britain, but we all seem to be having the same sort of problems. My mother has been diagnosed with dimentia and over the past few months has been showing signs of losing interest in life as she knows it. We had her going to the senior-center every day by bus, but now she sleeps in until it is too late for her to go. She is also losing her sight. She has imacular degeneration and cateracts. Thus it is hard for her to read anything anymore. She is 87 and up until now has been fairly happy with her life. I live in with her as I pay her bills for her and take care of the household chores. I need to know that there are other people as frustrated as I am right now.
Thank you!
GBBB