I have no idea where to go next.
MWD diagnosed 2019.
Now has severe heart failure following numerous heart attacks.
I’m now retired, living with my parents.
Dad just doesn’t get dementia- keeps asking mum why she repeats things, keeps asking where I am. He’s told her she changes at night and why she does that - sundowning.
He gets pretty frustrated with her - we all know how frustrating it can be.
I’ve suggested outside help - he says that’s his decision not mine.
He says it’s ok for me as I get to do what I want.
That is so not true. I deal with all of the appointments, medications for both parents etc etc. We always end up arguing and the mum defends him!
It’s affecting me now physically and mentally.
I’m desperate to look after Mum to the best of my ability but it’s made harder and harder each day.
I can’t carry on like this but can’t leave Mum!
Any thought ideas or comments gratefully received.
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MWD diagnosed 2019.
Now has severe heart failure following numerous heart attacks.
I’m now retired, living with my parents.
Dad just doesn’t get dementia- keeps asking mum why she repeats things, keeps asking where I am. He’s told her she changes at night and why she does that - sundowning.
He gets pretty frustrated with her - we all know how frustrating it can be.
I’ve suggested outside help - he says that’s his decision not mine.
He says it’s ok for me as I get to do what I want.
That is so not true. I deal with all of the appointments, medications for both parents etc etc. We always end up arguing and the mum defends him!
It’s affecting me now physically and mentally.
I’m desperate to look after Mum to the best of my ability but it’s made harder and harder each day.
I can’t carry on like this but can’t leave Mum!
Any thought ideas or comments gratefully received.
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