Hi All,
im new here.My mum is 89 and has stage 5 dementia and severe heart failure and diabetes,and other health problems.
My sister and I have a POA for finances, jointly.
My sister lives with my mum and dad,who's 84,with health conditions.
My sister is carer for mymum, I was going in,in mornings for morning wash and change,but me and her argue continuously, my sister is very controlling.has previously,changed medication without consulting with Dr,she is always telling my Dad what he can't and can do, she has mum and Dad's bank accounts on her phone. My mum has some savings,and I have asked numerous times for a total of this,and she makes excuses, telling me my dad said he don't want me knowing,but it's a lie, my dad has said he didn't say anything of the sort.me and her don't talk as it got very nasty between us so I stopped the caring for my mum.I try to go up there, but my sister is very manipulative, telling my daughter when I can and can't go up there. She has stopped outside carers going in to mum, getting my daughters to do the caring with my sister. My question is,is, do I have rights to go into my parents home and access the money to be counted.Also my sister has changed my mums funeral plan,it was agreed mum and Dad would both be cremated together, but my sister had changed mums to burial, saying my mums savings is for mums burial, but my dad has said the money isn't for that it's for the family.My dad is scared of my sister, she tells him not to talk to drs or anyone about what happens in there house.Any advice would be grateful thanks Kim
im new here.My mum is 89 and has stage 5 dementia and severe heart failure and diabetes,and other health problems.
My sister and I have a POA for finances, jointly.
My sister lives with my mum and dad,who's 84,with health conditions.
My sister is carer for mymum, I was going in,in mornings for morning wash and change,but me and her argue continuously, my sister is very controlling.has previously,changed medication without consulting with Dr,she is always telling my Dad what he can't and can do, she has mum and Dad's bank accounts on her phone. My mum has some savings,and I have asked numerous times for a total of this,and she makes excuses, telling me my dad said he don't want me knowing,but it's a lie, my dad has said he didn't say anything of the sort.me and her don't talk as it got very nasty between us so I stopped the caring for my mum.I try to go up there, but my sister is very manipulative, telling my daughter when I can and can't go up there. She has stopped outside carers going in to mum, getting my daughters to do the caring with my sister. My question is,is, do I have rights to go into my parents home and access the money to be counted.Also my sister has changed my mums funeral plan,it was agreed mum and Dad would both be cremated together, but my sister had changed mums to burial, saying my mums savings is for mums burial, but my dad has said the money isn't for that it's for the family.My dad is scared of my sister, she tells him not to talk to drs or anyone about what happens in there house.Any advice would be grateful thanks Kim