I joined this forum a few years ago when my mum had dementia. She died 6 years ago. Now I am here again to support my husband and family. Husbands mum has dementia aged 80. She lives with her husband who is 88. we both work full time and help where we can. Hubby baths his mum twice a week, and we visit over the weekend. It's so different from my mum.....I have only known this family for two years, and I made all the decisions with my brother. Husbands dad does not want anyone else involved, but in our eyes they really do need help. Can I and should I go over everyone's head and contact adult social care? Husband is so frustrated and I can only imagine how his dad feels, but he is scared she will be taken straight into care. We have really tried to explain to him she won't? what would you do.....Many thanks in advance x