As some of you will know, my mum (86, with Alz and VasD) lives with myself, my husband and 3 boys (15, 10, 7). Well, after 4 years since the last family holiday, hubby, boys and me are going on holiday, at the end of July. I broke the news to mum a couple of weeks ago, knowing that she deals with things better when she's had a bit of notice. I'd taken the precaution of booking Respite at the time too.
Mum doesn't go out much (only to the local shop 100yds up the road), absolutely refuses any carers/visitors, and refuses to go any clubs/day centres. She couldn't manage in the house on her own, so this is not an option either.
She was furious when I explained the situation about the holiday to her, and told me she was going to get a taxi from here (NE England) to London to see some friends.
I'm terrified..... she won't use a taxi for short journeys here. She gets confused and disorientated in large shops, so a strange service station with a complete stranger will terrify her.
I don't think she has the ability to book the taxi herself, but I'm wondering whether I should ring round the taxi companies to explain the situation, just in case.
Nothing more has been said about it in front of her, but the boys are starting to get excited about their holiday, and more is being spoken of.
I could just do with some advice.....
If everything went to plan and she didn't feel 'ill' etc, it could be fine, but I'm worried my holiday will get spoilt by phone call saying something has gone wrong.... which is pretty likely.
.....or do I let things drift, pack her bag, and scoop her into Respite at the last minute!!
Oh. this is so tricky!!
Thank you for listening/reading...
Lulu xx
Mum doesn't go out much (only to the local shop 100yds up the road), absolutely refuses any carers/visitors, and refuses to go any clubs/day centres. She couldn't manage in the house on her own, so this is not an option either.
She was furious when I explained the situation about the holiday to her, and told me she was going to get a taxi from here (NE England) to London to see some friends.
I'm terrified..... she won't use a taxi for short journeys here. She gets confused and disorientated in large shops, so a strange service station with a complete stranger will terrify her.
I don't think she has the ability to book the taxi herself, but I'm wondering whether I should ring round the taxi companies to explain the situation, just in case.
Nothing more has been said about it in front of her, but the boys are starting to get excited about their holiday, and more is being spoken of.
I could just do with some advice.....
If everything went to plan and she didn't feel 'ill' etc, it could be fine, but I'm worried my holiday will get spoilt by phone call saying something has gone wrong.... which is pretty likely.
.....or do I let things drift, pack her bag, and scoop her into Respite at the last minute!!
Oh. this is so tricky!!
Thank you for listening/reading...
Lulu xx