Hi everyone, I'm using this forum for the very first time and I'm not very good at using the net etc. Prefer to be out on my bike! So please bear with me til I get it right.
Mum was diagnosed a couple of years ago and prescribed Aricept. We have gone through a period during which the dementia has levelled off. But now things are changing again.
Mum lives in her own house still, on her own since Dad died years ago. Sister lives too far away and has her own problems so its down to me, hubby and kids.
I have started using daily and weekly boxes for her pills and phoning daily to remind her to take them (live 15 miles away). Most days one of us go to see her.
But now she doesn't always take the pills and sometimes I catch her chewing them instead of swallowing. I bet they taste awful!
Yesterday was my son's 18th and we had a family meal at home. Mum made hubby feel like a stranger in his own home. She was nasty and very sarcastic.
Don't know if she was thinking he was my ex? It hurt us a lot.
Makes me feel unwilling to include her sometimes as I am on tenderhooks all the time and don't enjoy the occassion. Then I feel selfish! Is this normal? Is anything normal?
I have read some of the other postings, and I know I have been lucky as Mum's bank manager and solicitor both contacted me when Mum got herself in difficulties and then we sorted out the power of attorney stuff. I do feel a great weight on my shoulders. It doesn't help that Mum-in-law is physically disabled and very depressed and lives up north on her own, without the family support she should have. We are trying to get her transferred down to us but are waiting for a sheltered flat to become available. In the meantime any weekend we manage to get free we have to travel for 3-4hours and spend it looking after her!
That's got that lot off my chest and now I had better do some work. Will try finding my way back on to the site tomorrow.
My heart goes out to everyone in the same or similar situation
Mum was diagnosed a couple of years ago and prescribed Aricept. We have gone through a period during which the dementia has levelled off. But now things are changing again.
Mum lives in her own house still, on her own since Dad died years ago. Sister lives too far away and has her own problems so its down to me, hubby and kids.
I have started using daily and weekly boxes for her pills and phoning daily to remind her to take them (live 15 miles away). Most days one of us go to see her.
But now she doesn't always take the pills and sometimes I catch her chewing them instead of swallowing. I bet they taste awful!
Yesterday was my son's 18th and we had a family meal at home. Mum made hubby feel like a stranger in his own home. She was nasty and very sarcastic.
Don't know if she was thinking he was my ex? It hurt us a lot.
Makes me feel unwilling to include her sometimes as I am on tenderhooks all the time and don't enjoy the occassion. Then I feel selfish! Is this normal? Is anything normal?
I have read some of the other postings, and I know I have been lucky as Mum's bank manager and solicitor both contacted me when Mum got herself in difficulties and then we sorted out the power of attorney stuff. I do feel a great weight on my shoulders. It doesn't help that Mum-in-law is physically disabled and very depressed and lives up north on her own, without the family support she should have. We are trying to get her transferred down to us but are waiting for a sheltered flat to become available. In the meantime any weekend we manage to get free we have to travel for 3-4hours and spend it looking after her!
That's got that lot off my chest and now I had better do some work. Will try finding my way back on to the site tomorrow.
My heart goes out to everyone in the same or similar situation