hi, i am new to this so I am sorry if i get it wrong. my uncle adopted me 40 years ago and now is in hospital waiting for a place in a home. he has a diagnosis but i can't believe how quickly this happened. the ward just phoned and i can hear him swearing at the nurses. yesterday he hit one. he is 88 and all my life i listened to how he hated men who hit women. i miss him. his body is strong but his mind is gone..... I fought really hard for this move to the home to be temporary until his home is specially adapted for him but now i think he will never go back. I know i am letting him down by not taking him in but my children are scared of him now. they are still very young and i have a small baby but it all feels like an excuse.