Hi All,
First time on 2day so please bear with me - my mother has mixed dementia age 86, she lives in her own home, with Homecare coming in 7 days a wk, mainly 2 give her "Dementia tablets" about 2 months ago we had to have her gas cooker switched off 4 her own safety, we tried 2 explain what was going on but all she ever did was laugh about it, we'll now I think it's sunk in and she's going mad about it, she's said she wants 2 die & life's not worth living etc, I can't seem 2 get her 2 understand its 4 her own safety.
The Memory Clinic have told her, her own Doctor has told her in fact most people she knows have told her its 4 her own safety, she now won't let the carers cook in the microwave oven as she hates it, I'm worried for her own well being. At the moment she blames me & tells me what a wicked man I am (That's putting it mildly lol) and that I want her to die. I've been told that its the Dementia talking & not her and that she will in the end forget all about the cooker being switched off. It's got to the stage now where I always used to telephone her each day but the last few times she's been so upset and mad at me that she's put the fone down, I've left it for a few days then rang her but she's still mad at me so I think I'll leave it for a few days and hope she forgets or maybe ring me as if nothing else has happened.
My question to you is has anybody else had problems with have to having to switch there gas cooker off and had a very negative response? Maybe they can suggest some other ideas of what 2 say or do.
I live over 300 miles away from my mums so it's not as if I can just pop in, I have POA on my mother and look after her affairs via online etc, which seems 2 b working as its taken the pressure off her.
Regards,
David
First time on 2day so please bear with me - my mother has mixed dementia age 86, she lives in her own home, with Homecare coming in 7 days a wk, mainly 2 give her "Dementia tablets" about 2 months ago we had to have her gas cooker switched off 4 her own safety, we tried 2 explain what was going on but all she ever did was laugh about it, we'll now I think it's sunk in and she's going mad about it, she's said she wants 2 die & life's not worth living etc, I can't seem 2 get her 2 understand its 4 her own safety.
The Memory Clinic have told her, her own Doctor has told her in fact most people she knows have told her its 4 her own safety, she now won't let the carers cook in the microwave oven as she hates it, I'm worried for her own well being. At the moment she blames me & tells me what a wicked man I am (That's putting it mildly lol) and that I want her to die. I've been told that its the Dementia talking & not her and that she will in the end forget all about the cooker being switched off. It's got to the stage now where I always used to telephone her each day but the last few times she's been so upset and mad at me that she's put the fone down, I've left it for a few days then rang her but she's still mad at me so I think I'll leave it for a few days and hope she forgets or maybe ring me as if nothing else has happened.
My question to you is has anybody else had problems with have to having to switch there gas cooker off and had a very negative response? Maybe they can suggest some other ideas of what 2 say or do.
I live over 300 miles away from my mums so it's not as if I can just pop in, I have POA on my mother and look after her affairs via online etc, which seems 2 b working as its taken the pressure off her.
Regards,
David