Hi all,
I'm new here and this is my first post to any forum so please excuse me if I fumble with the etiquette or thread placement
My Dad has mid stage AD and my Mum, his carer, has been stretched pretty much to her limit over the last few months.
Our family has just been rocked by the news that she is very seriously ill and needs surgery in a couple of weeks. If successful this will require months of recouperation. Her diagnosis alone has left us all a bit traumatised (which sees me writing this in the middle of the night) but we now have the very pressing concern of what to do about Dad.
There is no way Mum can continue to care for him and as he's been getting very adversarial the stress of having him at home will seriously affect her ability to recover even if we had help in. So we need to find a care/nursing home for him extremely urgently. He is going to be devistated by Mum's diagnosis if he can comprehend it and going into a home will be really distressing for him. I'm sure his going to resist it vigarously if he understands what's going on.
Any advise on how to go about this, how to avoid any pitfalls and how to help the transition would be greatly appreciated. We were only just starting to think about care so we're woefully underprepared.
We want the best care possible for Dad and are really worried that the only homes available on short notice will be awful. Is it ok to ask for home recommendations via PM? If so, I'd love to hear of some good facilities on the Wirral or near Chester or Liverpool.
Sorry for the length of this post! Thank you so much for any help you can offer.
Millie
I'm new here and this is my first post to any forum so please excuse me if I fumble with the etiquette or thread placement
My Dad has mid stage AD and my Mum, his carer, has been stretched pretty much to her limit over the last few months.
Our family has just been rocked by the news that she is very seriously ill and needs surgery in a couple of weeks. If successful this will require months of recouperation. Her diagnosis alone has left us all a bit traumatised (which sees me writing this in the middle of the night) but we now have the very pressing concern of what to do about Dad.
There is no way Mum can continue to care for him and as he's been getting very adversarial the stress of having him at home will seriously affect her ability to recover even if we had help in. So we need to find a care/nursing home for him extremely urgently. He is going to be devistated by Mum's diagnosis if he can comprehend it and going into a home will be really distressing for him. I'm sure his going to resist it vigarously if he understands what's going on.
Any advise on how to go about this, how to avoid any pitfalls and how to help the transition would be greatly appreciated. We were only just starting to think about care so we're woefully underprepared.
We want the best care possible for Dad and are really worried that the only homes available on short notice will be awful. Is it ok to ask for home recommendations via PM? If so, I'd love to hear of some good facilities on the Wirral or near Chester or Liverpool.
Sorry for the length of this post! Thank you so much for any help you can offer.
Millie