I have only just joined this forum. I am an only child of a marriage that has lasted over 40 years. My father was diagnosed with AD nearly 8 years ago when he was 57, ever since then I have gone through so many different emotions. Majority of them wanting to protect & support my mother First emotion was the shock, is this really happening to us?? Then... why? what is AD anyway and anger, alot of anger. I went to a Carer's course at the local memory clinic where my father is a patient, there I learnt all about the disease and why he does the things he does and I was much calmer at the end. Unfortunately over the past few months my father's dementia has gone rapidly downhill and he has become very volatile, miss hearing things and thinks the television is talking to him. He rarely recognises my mother and asks constantly where she is. My mum is at her wits end, but he was so badly treated when we put him into respite care that we are reluctant to put him back and that the rest has been a complete waste of time once he has returned. Help!! I can see my dad, but he's not there any more and I am falling apart trying to keep my parents happy and in a calm environment. Can anyone help me?