Hello , I am new here. I did think I was able to cope as I have been caring for my 87 year old mum since 2011 when my father passed away. But sadly I'm not coping. I'm in my 40s and my husband helps me a lot.
Mum has a support worker , she was diagnosed in January but we are still waiting on her brain scan a year and a half later to find out which type of Altzhimers /Dementia she has.
I have been very lucky in the fact she has carers in the mornings so I can now get out an hour for times to my self. But then she is with us 7 days a week the rest of the day until bedtimes. Its putting a strain on our marriage. We don't get any time together. I know she is in the early stages of Dementia and I am finding it very hard. The physical side I don't mind, I never have. I do all her cooking, cleaning, organising of tablets, bills, app etc and take her there. It's the rest. I suffer with mental health problems and sometimes I find that I cannot cope. There has been a lot of tears in the past week. I don't know what to do and have no one to talk to apart from my husband and he works full time.
So I supposed I am on here to find help and hopefully one day I'll be able to help others. I love my mum so much. But there are days I am now just surviving too.
Thanks for listening.
Mum has a support worker , she was diagnosed in January but we are still waiting on her brain scan a year and a half later to find out which type of Altzhimers /Dementia she has.
I have been very lucky in the fact she has carers in the mornings so I can now get out an hour for times to my self. But then she is with us 7 days a week the rest of the day until bedtimes. Its putting a strain on our marriage. We don't get any time together. I know she is in the early stages of Dementia and I am finding it very hard. The physical side I don't mind, I never have. I do all her cooking, cleaning, organising of tablets, bills, app etc and take her there. It's the rest. I suffer with mental health problems and sometimes I find that I cannot cope. There has been a lot of tears in the past week. I don't know what to do and have no one to talk to apart from my husband and he works full time.
So I supposed I am on here to find help and hopefully one day I'll be able to help others. I love my mum so much. But there are days I am now just surviving too.
Thanks for listening.