Hello there
Things are getting on top of me and I wondered if anyone has been through this - both parents seriously ill.
Mum has been in a specialist dementia unit since January, and some months last year too.
She was sectioned twice. A care home was tried out but unfortunately she wouldn't settle so back in dementia ward.
Dad (82) has been visiting every day since January - totally devoted. But he's got a heart complaint and collapsed last saturday - now in hospital with a date for major heart surgery at Papworth.
I live away, have a small child. Have been visiting weekly then fortnightly for a year - but now with dad ill too feel I should be there more. He's really worried mum will forget him.
I try all the reassurance... tell him it's out of our control. But he just keeps on needing me to say it over and over again (I worry about his state of mind!). Along with all sorts of other things he needs from me. I'm doing my best, being patient, kind, visiting as much as poss. But tonight I just flipped out! I'm so fed up with it!
This is such a nightmare and it feels like it's just going on and on. I never have energy for my child. My marriage is strained. My part time job is suffering... and I see it going on for years
Things are getting on top of me and I wondered if anyone has been through this - both parents seriously ill.
Mum has been in a specialist dementia unit since January, and some months last year too.
She was sectioned twice. A care home was tried out but unfortunately she wouldn't settle so back in dementia ward.
Dad (82) has been visiting every day since January - totally devoted. But he's got a heart complaint and collapsed last saturday - now in hospital with a date for major heart surgery at Papworth.
I live away, have a small child. Have been visiting weekly then fortnightly for a year - but now with dad ill too feel I should be there more. He's really worried mum will forget him.
I try all the reassurance... tell him it's out of our control. But he just keeps on needing me to say it over and over again (I worry about his state of mind!). Along with all sorts of other things he needs from me. I'm doing my best, being patient, kind, visiting as much as poss. But tonight I just flipped out! I'm so fed up with it!
This is such a nightmare and it feels like it's just going on and on. I never have energy for my child. My marriage is strained. My part time job is suffering... and I see it going on for years