My mum-in-law has been showing signs of possible dementia for a year or so now. She is 90 and is becoming more and more confused with everyday life. Her nurse did the mini assessment and asked me a few questions (Mum is almost deaf now) and she has been referred to the memory clinic for assessment.
My problem at the moment is that she is completely confused about her medication and is even refusing to take her calcium tablets. She wants her old meds back and has even recently gone to the chemist in a confused state and demanded them.
Today we went to the Dr`s and she got really upset and told the Dr that her COPD inhalers had run out and she didn`t know how to order new ones and so has gone without taking them. The Dr prescribed two more and off i went to the chemist to get them.
The chemist was really worried and explained how mum came in last week and gave him back two inhalers and the calcium tablets he dispensed to her the day before. She insisted she does not need them. So off i trot back to Mum and explain she ran out of inhalers because she gave them back to the chemist. She insists she did not and that they are in the cupboard ! She even forgot she had told the Dr she ran out this morning.
We are hugely worried that she is missing taking medication and worse still is returning things to the chemist that she needs. She doesn`t understand how ordering and receiving her meds works anymore and she is going to the Dr and chemist asking them to explain things, but then she still has no idea. However, she will not let us deal with them for her or organise a delivery service.
Please could anyone offer some advice ? We desperately want to help her, but she has become obsessed with getting old meds back and sorting it all out herself. My husbands family seem in denial about what is happening to their Mum and i`m totally lost for how i can help her or them. It is awful seeing her like this and my husband getting upset because he cannot work out why explaining anything to her has become impossible. She has also turned against him quite dramatically and just tuts and rolls er eyes if he says anything or tells him he`s lying - is this normal for somebody with dementia ? it is heart breaking.![Frown :( :(](data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7)
My problem at the moment is that she is completely confused about her medication and is even refusing to take her calcium tablets. She wants her old meds back and has even recently gone to the chemist in a confused state and demanded them.
Today we went to the Dr`s and she got really upset and told the Dr that her COPD inhalers had run out and she didn`t know how to order new ones and so has gone without taking them. The Dr prescribed two more and off i went to the chemist to get them.
The chemist was really worried and explained how mum came in last week and gave him back two inhalers and the calcium tablets he dispensed to her the day before. She insisted she does not need them. So off i trot back to Mum and explain she ran out of inhalers because she gave them back to the chemist. She insists she did not and that they are in the cupboard ! She even forgot she had told the Dr she ran out this morning.
We are hugely worried that she is missing taking medication and worse still is returning things to the chemist that she needs. She doesn`t understand how ordering and receiving her meds works anymore and she is going to the Dr and chemist asking them to explain things, but then she still has no idea. However, she will not let us deal with them for her or organise a delivery service.
Please could anyone offer some advice ? We desperately want to help her, but she has become obsessed with getting old meds back and sorting it all out herself. My husbands family seem in denial about what is happening to their Mum and i`m totally lost for how i can help her or them. It is awful seeing her like this and my husband getting upset because he cannot work out why explaining anything to her has become impossible. She has also turned against him quite dramatically and just tuts and rolls er eyes if he says anything or tells him he`s lying - is this normal for somebody with dementia ? it is heart breaking.