Me again. So Mjm moved to a care home about 2 and a half weeks ago because I just wasn't able to sustain the level of support she needed to stay at home. She was extremely agitated and distressed at home and couldn't be left on her own. She would phone me and demand that I went to be with her. We hoped that we might be able to pit support in to keep her at home but because she's a self-funder I was told she'd have to wait months for a care act assessment and that we'd have to organise all the support. Anyway we found a lovely carehome and it just made more sense financially and practically as I'm burnt out for her to stay at the carehome.
My Mum is so angry and it is all focused on me. She sends me texts, up to 50 a day, saying really upsetting, horrible things and accusing me of being cruel, heartless and worse. But today her sister visited her and said she seemed fairly happy and that they'd had a nice time together and even laughed together. I just don't understand. How is it the can be so repeatedly and relentlessly horrible to me and okay with others? I feel I've spent my life trying to be the good daughter (my brother lives in another country and hasn't been any help). She blames me for putting my job before her wellbeing. I judt feel so low.
My Mum is so angry and it is all focused on me. She sends me texts, up to 50 a day, saying really upsetting, horrible things and accusing me of being cruel, heartless and worse. But today her sister visited her and said she seemed fairly happy and that they'd had a nice time together and even laughed together. I just don't understand. How is it the can be so repeatedly and relentlessly horrible to me and okay with others? I feel I've spent my life trying to be the good daughter (my brother lives in another country and hasn't been any help). She blames me for putting my job before her wellbeing. I judt feel so low.