Hello. My name is john and my mum has recently been diagnosed with dementia although dr says its not Alzheimer's. she's 87 and lives in a private warden assisted flat. She's on loperamide and its certainly helped her mood but although she has carers she's reluctant to let them do anything. Her short term memory seems to have completely gone. She's never been able to read or right ( dyslexic I think as she's not stupid ) she is fiercely independent and has started to get stroppy with me when I offer to do her cleaning / washing. Her eyesight is bad and she can't see sometime how dirty her clothes are getting and tonight it became a real battle between us for her to allow me to help! I know to ignore a lot of things she says but surely I have make sure she stays clean even if it causes friction? Need some advice.