Hi, I am new to this site but from what I have read it seems a great place for comfort and reassurance for carers. My Father has had AD for about 6 years and I have been his main carer for most of that time. However, during the last 6 months things have been quite hard and we made the decision to put him into a care home in January, needless to say it has been the worst 2 months of my life! He was first placed in a state run care home about 40 mins from his home where Social Services wanted to keep him because it wouldn't cost them so much, regardless of the fact that the security of the home was very, very, lax and he had managed to "escape" twice! I fought them long and hard to get him a place closer to home so that we could visit him more often. I eventually found him a lovely room 5 minutes away but was told by SS that it was more than their "rates" and the family would have to pay £55 top up fee's which we just couldn't afford. So a very stressfull time was made much worse by their attitude! We eventually managed to get a room at their rates and moved him 3 weeks ago, however, although its a lovely place and I believe he's well cared for moving him after 5 weeks has seriously disrupted and unsettled him and he is having trouble settling at the new place. 2 weeks ago he got really agressive because he wanted to go home and the staff struggled to cope with the situation so they asked us if we would mind not going to see him for a few days in order for him to settle in. We agreed, but since then they have just kept saying another few days, another few days and its is now 2 weeks since he has seen any of the family. I am finding this very stressfull and my Father must think he's been abandoned. Is this normal procedure or should I be making more of a fuss?