Hi,
My dad has had declining memory for several years and had recently been diagnosed with Alzheimer’s (likely vascular possibly mixed).
He now lives on his own in a flat owned by my half sister. Up until 4 months ago he was the main carer for his partner who was an alcoholic. She passed away 4 months ago and he moved back to his flat.
He is struggling with cooking meals for himself, eating regularly, admin and paperwork and delusions (about people being in his house and then leaving unexpectedly).
He has a heart condition and is not regularly taking his heart meds but tells everyone he is. He has been offered a home help but has refused. His doctor wants to see him regularly but he is refusing to go. I have a POA but for the moment the medical professions deem him to have capacity.
I feel he is getting by on ‘sound bites’ which he reels off to everyone but I know not to be true. Things like ‘I take my meds twice a day morning and night’. ‘I am always eating’.
He has this new obsession about turning off the new boiler. This is dangerous and could lead to a build up of toxic or flammable gas. He does this because he doesn’t want the heating on.
This is what I have done so far…
*my sister or myself see him 2-3 times per week
*we have set up delivery of blister packs for his meds
*I’ve taken him for a UTI tests (he refused to take the antibiotics)
*I used to take him food shopping and leave it in his fridge
*I’ve helped him to sort his banking passwords about 100 times (he keeps inputting random passwords)
*we supported him to get a new boiler fitted
*we had his flat vaped to kill mould spores
I work full time and I have a 2yo so I’m at a bit of a loss as to how to further help him when he is refusing all help.
Any advice would be appreciated. TIA
My dad has had declining memory for several years and had recently been diagnosed with Alzheimer’s (likely vascular possibly mixed).
He now lives on his own in a flat owned by my half sister. Up until 4 months ago he was the main carer for his partner who was an alcoholic. She passed away 4 months ago and he moved back to his flat.
He is struggling with cooking meals for himself, eating regularly, admin and paperwork and delusions (about people being in his house and then leaving unexpectedly).
He has a heart condition and is not regularly taking his heart meds but tells everyone he is. He has been offered a home help but has refused. His doctor wants to see him regularly but he is refusing to go. I have a POA but for the moment the medical professions deem him to have capacity.
I feel he is getting by on ‘sound bites’ which he reels off to everyone but I know not to be true. Things like ‘I take my meds twice a day morning and night’. ‘I am always eating’.
He has this new obsession about turning off the new boiler. This is dangerous and could lead to a build up of toxic or flammable gas. He does this because he doesn’t want the heating on.
This is what I have done so far…
*my sister or myself see him 2-3 times per week
*we have set up delivery of blister packs for his meds
*I’ve taken him for a UTI tests (he refused to take the antibiotics)
*I used to take him food shopping and leave it in his fridge
*I’ve helped him to sort his banking passwords about 100 times (he keeps inputting random passwords)
*we supported him to get a new boiler fitted
*we had his flat vaped to kill mould spores
I work full time and I have a 2yo so I’m at a bit of a loss as to how to further help him when he is refusing all help.
Any advice would be appreciated. TIA