I have just joined and thought I would introduce myself. I am 27 years old and my 63 year old Mum got diagnosed with early onset dementia last year. She is getting significantly worse and I'm finding it extremely difficult. We do not have a big family, there is me, Mum, my brother and my uncle (Mum's brother). My brother does not live close although has now moved closer (he used to be 5 hours away, now only 1). I live 20 minutes from Mum and my uncle is 10 minutes. I am really struggling with the guilt of not doing enough.
I work full time Monday - Friday and I try to see Mum every weekend and if she needs anything in the week then I am there. I luckily have a very understanding workplace so I can drop work in emergencies or appointments for her. I do find myself being exhausted trying to keep up with it all and also trying to process the diagnosis. I never imagined my Mum becoming so ill so young, she is changing right in front of me. Nevertheless I am trying all I can. My uncle is also there a lot in the week and calls Mum every night to remind her to take her medication. My brother has buried his head in the sand with living far away and I feel very on my own with making big decisions i.e care.
I am trying to organise some form of carer to check in on Mum once a day or something as she still lives at home for now. However she has been extremely resistant to help in the past. Does anyone have any advice on who to contact or where to start with that? It's just so we have peace of mind that she is being checked on daily.
She also has 2 dogs (german shepherds) and I do worry sometimes about her having to care for them aswell as herself however she would be lost without them. One of them has severe allergies and requires daily medication and I do worry about that.
Sorry I think I have used this as a place to put my thoughts, but I am hoping that being part of the forum will be of some help.
I work full time Monday - Friday and I try to see Mum every weekend and if she needs anything in the week then I am there. I luckily have a very understanding workplace so I can drop work in emergencies or appointments for her. I do find myself being exhausted trying to keep up with it all and also trying to process the diagnosis. I never imagined my Mum becoming so ill so young, she is changing right in front of me. Nevertheless I am trying all I can. My uncle is also there a lot in the week and calls Mum every night to remind her to take her medication. My brother has buried his head in the sand with living far away and I feel very on my own with making big decisions i.e care.
I am trying to organise some form of carer to check in on Mum once a day or something as she still lives at home for now. However she has been extremely resistant to help in the past. Does anyone have any advice on who to contact or where to start with that? It's just so we have peace of mind that she is being checked on daily.
She also has 2 dogs (german shepherds) and I do worry sometimes about her having to care for them aswell as herself however she would be lost without them. One of them has severe allergies and requires daily medication and I do worry about that.
Sorry I think I have used this as a place to put my thoughts, but I am hoping that being part of the forum will be of some help.