Helen and Alan

[Helen33]

Dear Mary,

I have some video footage of some of the acts at covent garden from the Saturday - limbo dancers, singers and a unicyclist doing a Houdini routine I don't suppose you saw any of these cos you might have been 'framed'

Dear Sylvia,

I have had the agency lady come to wash Alan but he was not very happy about it and she had a right job on. I thought "better you than me" and left her to it whilst I got a few jobs done.

Dear Jan,

It is peaceful Jan and I hope it stays that way. Alan said as clear as day this morning "I am dying" and we had just a few close moments together.

I am so pleased that he is home where he should be. I can't bear to think of him amongst all the hustle and bustle of the nursing home with nowhere to rest his poor body

Dear Milly,

I hope Harold is still improving and that you are ok

ove

 

[gigi]

Morning Helen,

It's good to hear that you had a better night and things are relatively peaceful for you both.

Alan said as clear as day this morning "I am dying" and we had just a few close moments together.

Oh how sad, but how close you must have felt to each other.

Stay strong, my friend.

Thinking of you often.

Love xx

 

[Grannie G]

Alan said as clear as day this morning "I am dying" and we had just a few close moments together.

Oh dear, Helen. How sad.

 

[DeborahBlythe]

Alan said as clear as day this morning "I am dying" and we had just a few close moments together.

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Sending you hugs and love this morning Helen, and thinking of you both.I hope the sun comes out for you.

x

 

[Sam Iam]

Helen and Alan, hugs,love and strength to you both xxx

 

[BeckyJan]

Hi Helen:
So sad for you but that moment of closeness will be a treasured moment for ever.

My heart goes out to you.
Love

 

[sad nell]

Helen good that you feel refreshed, and that you had those few moments connection, Alans insight has always amazed me, I am so pleased he is safely in your care and that you can share some peacfull loving time together, you and family are in my prayers, love pam

 

[Canadian Joanne]

Dear Helen,
Alan never ceases to amaze. As heartbreaking as I imagine it was to hear, it must also have given you a little of your old Alan back.

My love to you both.

 

[Winnie Kjaer]

Helen so sad and yet so special that he is aware. It proves that he is more than aware of your care and continous love for each other.
I think about you every day. x

 

[Dibs]

Dear Helen

I've just logged on and I just want to say I'm glad Alan is at home with you and my thoughts are with you both.
Take care Love Dibs xx

 

[ChristineR62]

Alan said as clear as day this morning "I am dying" and we had just a few close moments together.

Oh, Helen, I'm so sad to read this. My heart goes out to both of you. I know you will always treasure those moments.

Love
Christine
xxx

 

[living in hope]

Hi Helen,
Just sending love to you both
Lorraine

 

[Helen33]

It is always so supportive to log into TP and see that you actually care about us - thank you

Alan has hardly been awake today. He is now tucked in bed and is fast asleep. He has hardly eaten anything and I can tell that is because there is something different about his mouth. He has sores on his bottom lip and I suspect he might have mouth ulcers. I will ring the District Nurse tomorrow because this needs looking at urgently. It has taken me all my time to get him to drink and have only managed to get 2 glasses of juice into him.

I can see that every day he gets weaker and he is now finding it very difficult to stand from a sitting position. This active man can hardly walk - it just seems unbelievable that it has all happened so quickly.

On the positive side, he has the quiet that he needs, he is comfortable, he is loved, he can die in peace Someone asked me today how I was preparing myself and it took me by surprise. I then knew that amidst all my sadness at losing my lovely husband I will celebrate that he had the best life that he could have with dementia I just know that I will carry this with me through the rest of my journey.

Love

 

[Grannie G]

On the positive side, he has the quiet that he needs, he is comfortable, he is loved, he can die in peace

It is good for you to know this Helen. xx

 

[Izzy]

Thinking of you both as always. I know that Alan is in the best of hands. Izzy x

 

[maryw]

Helen, you have done the most amazing thing by bringing Alan home - I'm sure Alan knows that too xx

 

[burfordthecat]

Helen

Your last post brought tears to my eyes. At this stage, I don't think that anyone could even begin to look after Alan as well as you do. I wish you the strength and courage to continue.

You and Alan are always in my thoughts

Love and hugs to you both

Carina x x

 

[julieann15]

Dear Helen
I cannot put into words what I feel I need to say- so will just send you a hug and the the wish you have the strength in the future days

Love Julie xx

I am so sorry for my difficulty in supporting you both at this difficult time

 

[Helen33]

I am so sorry for my difficulty in supporting you both at this difficult time

Dear Julie, You know that I see Talking Point as a Community Centre and it is just good that you are around. You have had such a difficult year yourself with huge emotions to contend with and I do sometimes wonder how you are managing.

Love

 

[bigtom]

Hi helen,just want to send you and alan a (((hug))) and our love at this difficult time tom and sylvia