My mum has Alzheimers and is at what I believe is stage 7. She doesn't know any of us, stares blankly, is incontinent (both ways), doesn't speak,stopped walking very suddenly in March and now seems to have forgotten how to swallow. She is in a good care home and the doctor saw her Monday . Her diabetes is bad and he has started her on insulin , also meds for high blood pressure. She spends a lot of time in bed , either sleeping or just staring. She is not my mum! I feel like she went months ago but I hate to see her like this and the effect it is having on dad (88 with Asbestos and on oxygen!) and my brothers is just horrible. It seems an awful thing to say but I wish she would just slip away! Her quality life appears to be nil but my dad and one brother seem to be holding out for some kind of miracle and keep thinking that's med or that drug could "bring her back". I don't know if its because Im the oldest or because the only female but I feel I have to be strong and more practical as I'm sure we are getting to the end.I know from reading the posts that a lot of you are there too, but how do we get through it while trying to remain upbeat and positive but knowing that she could go anytime?? How long does this stage last??Just being able to write down my feelings has helped, so thank you all for reading.