Mum aged 90 lives with myself and daughter . Last 3 months she has lost some of independence when cleaning self after using toilet. She is on iron tablets which dont help situation. We try to prompt her to use more toilet tissue wipes And then toilet paper. She is starting to be uncoperative and wants to leave bathroom before she should . It is becoming a real battle at times . She lashes out, tries to punch you , pull hair etc and is amazingly strong. My daughter and i are quite skilled at avoiding punches and manage to remove under garments . I am at a loss what i can do. Does anybody have any experience of this and if so what did they do to combat it. It really is the dark side of dementia , makes light of all her other dementia behaviours. I know if mum went into care she would be drugged up, padded and would lose skills she has . She can suddently be cooperative but it is somtime consuming , spending v long time in bathroom. I presume ive just got to wait for mum to progress to next stage and not be able to resist intervention. I am coping but its hard .