My Mum with Alz, accepted care pretty easily, just by telling her that her family doctor had arranged it.
It was my Dad who has cognitive impairment who objected to any kind of home help.
It wasnt from a perspective that he thought he didnt need help with Mum, and he would do it all, it was just that he didnt want strangers in his home.
Now that Mum is in care, and the house is fast becoming a tip, ( I can only do so much) he refuses to entertain the idea of a cleaner once a week for an hour.
The house needs a thorough clean, and we are having to arrange cleaners in, while my sister takes him to her house for 2 or 3 days.