1. Expert Q&A: Living well as a carer - Weds 28 August, 3-4pm

    As a carer for a person living with dementia, the needs of the person you care for will often come before your own. You may experience a range of difficult emotions and you may not have the time to do all the things you need to do. Caring can have a big impact on both your mental and physical health, as well as your overall wellbeing.

    Angelo, our Knowledge Officer (Wellbeing) is our expert on this topic. He will be here to answer your questions on Wednesday 28 August between 3-4pm.

    You can either post questions >here< or email them to us at talkingpoint@alzheimers.org.uk and we'll answer as many as we can on the day.

  1. yak55

    yak55 Registered User

    Jun 15, 2015
    614
    This is a funny one and not ha ha funny.
    Mum has typical elderly hands as in blue raised veins on the top of her hands. It’s nothing and certainly nothing to worry about.
    She has mentioned the fact that she doesn’t like them and I reassure her that it’s normal but yesterday she said she’d tried scrubbing them away???
    Anyone else had this issue with their PWD?
     
  2. gotanybiscuits?

    gotanybiscuits? Registered User

    Jan 8, 2017
    1,014
    Male
    the beautiful south
    No.
    But, my Dad did go through a phase of using Cough Syrup as a hand cream :confused:
    Apparently :rolleyes: it was an instant cure for "cramp".

    Do you believe your Mum did actually scrub, or just another confabulation?
     
  3. karaokePete

    karaokePete Registered User

    Jul 23, 2017
    4,836
    N Ireland
    I'd keep an eye out for any signs of excessive scrubbing. With old people having thin skin I'd imagine some damage could be done there. I hope I'm not just being alarmist as I don't want to cause any upset.
     
  4. yak55

    yak55 Registered User

    Jun 15, 2015
    614
    Oh dear
    I’m not sure, she hasn’t got a scrubbing brush in her en suite which I’m glad of and they don’t look sore or scratched so it may be nothing or she may have scrubbed them with a flannel!
    Either way I suppose I have to accept accept accept anything my Mum says is a muddled mind talking, I can most of the time but when it’s something to do with Mums health etc it bothers me. The stories about how she went here there and everywhere with Dad who died last August, I can deal with.
    Thanks for replying x
     
  5. Kevinl

    Kevinl Registered User

    Aug 24, 2013
    4,739
    Salford
    Would fake sun tan cream make them less noticeable? Sort of camouflage them a bit so she no longer notices them so much.
    K
     
  6. yak55

    yak55 Registered User

    Jun 15, 2015
    614
    Good idea, thanks
     
  7. Starter

    Starter Registered User

    Oct 10, 2015
    114
    Yes, my mum’s arms are covered in freckles which she has decided she doesn’t like and says she has tried to wash away. Given I can’t get her to wash, I think this is more confabulation x
     
  8. Rosettastone57

    Rosettastone57 Registered User

    Oct 27, 2016
    917
    My MIL has this idea as well about her hands. We got her a pair of fingerless knitted gloves which seemed to placate her.
     
  9. yak55

    yak55 Registered User

    Jun 15, 2015
    614
    Another good idea, I’ll try and get some for Mum thanks x
     
  10. Duggies-girl

    Duggies-girl Registered User

    Sep 6, 2017
    1,470
    Most fake tans have a funny smell that you can't get rid of until the tan goes so make sure the smell doesn't bother her first.
     
  11. Kevinl

    Kevinl Registered User

    Aug 24, 2013
    4,739
    Salford
    I bow to your superior knowledge of fake tan, never having used it but frankly some of the creams women rub in their hands smell a bit dodgy too:)
    K
     
  12. carolynp

    carolynp Registered User

    Mar 4, 2018
    571
    I fear the fake suntan cream may make the dark spots darker so if you try that do test it first. The other problem is that it tends to stain clothing and so on.
     
  13. Rolypoly

    Rolypoly Registered User

    Jan 15, 2018
    2,319
    You can always try the moisturiser which tans skin, or even plain moisturiser and tell her it will help with the veins but it will take a while ;)
     
  14. Duggies-girl

    Duggies-girl Registered User

    Sep 6, 2017
    1,470
    I have used a few including those that tan instantly and those that tan overnight and they all have the same particular smell that stays until the tan has worn off. I could even smell in my dreams so I imagine it could upset someone with dementia if they didn't like the smell.

    I rarely wear it but I have lost most of my skin pigment since my mum died (doctor says it is stress) so I use it in the summer sometimes to even out my skin colour and because I get fed up with people commenting on how pale I am.
     
  15. yak55

    yak55 Registered User

    Jun 15, 2015
    614
    Will do
     
  16. yak55

    yak55 Registered User

    Jun 15, 2015
    614
    That’s a point that I’d never thought of, I’m very pale and people say the same!
     
  17. Duggies-girl

    Duggies-girl Registered User

    Sep 6, 2017
    1,470
    Pale and interesting. I have heard people say that.
     
  18. yak55

    yak55 Registered User

    Jun 15, 2015
    614
    Yes
     
  19. yak55

    yak55 Registered User

    Jun 15, 2015
    614
    I’ve seen some hand warmers online which may do but then again Mum have forgotten that she was bothered by the veins on her hands, not easy to gauge tbh
     

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