I already posted today, but I’m feeling greedy (or needy) so I’m posting again. I started sleeping separately from my husband a few months ago for my health and comfort. I miss my bedroom and superior bed, but having peace at night is even more valuable. I’d like to say I miss the cuddles but my husband’s touch does not feel comforting anymore.
He tends to drag out bedtime and stare at his phone or into the fire for hours then he may or may not brush his teeth, may or may not remember to put his hearing aids on charge, etc so he’s up and down. Then he starts grabbing me in bed. Then the snoring begins. The whole thing was beyond madness plus I’d sleep on my side and my shoulder would freeze.
Now I’m pretty settled in the basement but every night when I tell him I’m going to bed he says I’ll be in in a few minutes & I say but I’m sleeping downstairs and he acts surprised. I feel like I’m breaking the news to him anew every night that I no longer sleep with him and I feel guilty like I’ve abandoned him.
He tends to drag out bedtime and stare at his phone or into the fire for hours then he may or may not brush his teeth, may or may not remember to put his hearing aids on charge, etc so he’s up and down. Then he starts grabbing me in bed. Then the snoring begins. The whole thing was beyond madness plus I’d sleep on my side and my shoulder would freeze.
Now I’m pretty settled in the basement but every night when I tell him I’m going to bed he says I’ll be in in a few minutes & I say but I’m sleeping downstairs and he acts surprised. I feel like I’m breaking the news to him anew every night that I no longer sleep with him and I feel guilty like I’ve abandoned him.