So, we have bitten the bullet and found a place for my mum in a retirement home .... and today was the day she went in!!! I have been panicking about this for quite some time (sometimes literally with anxiety attacks). The staff could not have been better - they were attentive and engaged my mum for the minute we entered. They had a gift to welcome her and it went very well. However, the issue is that this retirement home is in France because that is where we live and my mum does not speak French! The staff have prepared lots of things for her - flash cards and a question sheet with translations and I know they will try very hard. But we have placed her in there with a language barrier. She will no longer have access to UK TV and the food will most definitely be different to what she is used to. I sit here several hours after leaving her and I am feeling such guilt about the position we have placed her in. There is not really any other option - if we return her to UK to a home then there will be nobody there to visit her - at least here we are 30 mins down the road and can visit often and take her out etc. I am pretty sure in a few days I will feel better about this situation and hopefully my Mum will have settled a little ..... here's hoping ..... and thank you to this forum it really has been an excellent source of support. Just knowing you're not the only one going through some of these things certainly has helped ![Smile :) :)](data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7)