Hi I'm cat and new to this. My grandmother is in her 70s and lives with her friend most of the time, he spends all her money on alcohol and gambling. We have broached this with him but he just gets aggressive and Denies this but we know its true as the bank has confirmed they have saw him take her money from him. I now have access to her bank account and both our names are on the card so I get money for her and take her shopping. Now here's the problem we know she has dementia but has to go for tests she had a brain scan to go for today but refused because he has told her that we are only doing this to get to her money (I own my own business and have bought my house outright I don't need her money) she is now telling everyone that me and my daughter are robbing from her and very publicly accused me today while in the bank while referring to me as this lady. I really am at my wits end as she won't come back to live with me but I don't think she is safe living with this friend because if any of us make a sudden movement she shouts don't hit me, we would like to get her into some sort of sheltered accommodation if she won't come back to live with me but don't know where to start. Any help would be greatly appreciated. Thanks