Aaargh!!!
I'm SO frustrated at the moment with dad's GP.
This is a follow-on from my thread about anticoagulants & dementia:
https://forum.alzheimers.org.uk/showthread.php?88937-Anticoagulants-and-dementia
Here's a quick summary;
Dad moved to a care home 2 years ago, following a fall/hospitalisation/delusions and was diagnosed with vascular dementia. He's now at the stage where his speech is largely unintelligible, on a mashed diet, gets angry/moody, very short attention span, has obsessions/paranoia, and (importantly) gets 'yes' confused with 'no' and often can't make a decision or answer a question.
His new GP has raised the topic of anticoagulants again (apixiban) and wants dad to go on them (alongside numerous other heart related drugs). He asked dad about this, in the presence of the care home manager, and dad apparently waved his hands and was dismissive about it. So the GP called me into the surgery and asked me. Having read the pros and cons I said I'd be reluctant to go ahead with the new drug, but I'd attempt to ask dad (again!). Which I did. Eventually dad understood and more or less said 'no'.
Today I found out that the GP has once more asked dad about it, in my absence but with the CH manager there... (not the manager's fault, it was sprung on her during one of the GP's rounds). Apparently dad got confused, answered yes to everything, and only said 'no' once the manager calmly and quietly explained what the GP was asking.
Now the GP has decided he's going to ask dad about it again in 2 months time!
What is going on? Dad has dementia, and I've been acting as POA for 2 years... but it feels like the GP is a) ignoring me, and b) has no understanding of dad's illness. All he's doing is making dad agitated, revisiting the same question over and over. Plus the GP told dad that he's spoken to me about it, which means I've had angry phonecalls from dad, because (obviously) it's all my fault!
Don't even get me started about the GP asking dad about DNAR every 6 months. Every 6 months!!!
Maybe I'm being unreasonable (and I do understand that safe-guarding works both ways) but I'm not sure how to handle this any more :-(
Sorry for the long post, but I'd appreciate any suggestions.
I'm SO frustrated at the moment with dad's GP.
This is a follow-on from my thread about anticoagulants & dementia:
https://forum.alzheimers.org.uk/showthread.php?88937-Anticoagulants-and-dementia
Here's a quick summary;
Dad moved to a care home 2 years ago, following a fall/hospitalisation/delusions and was diagnosed with vascular dementia. He's now at the stage where his speech is largely unintelligible, on a mashed diet, gets angry/moody, very short attention span, has obsessions/paranoia, and (importantly) gets 'yes' confused with 'no' and often can't make a decision or answer a question.
His new GP has raised the topic of anticoagulants again (apixiban) and wants dad to go on them (alongside numerous other heart related drugs). He asked dad about this, in the presence of the care home manager, and dad apparently waved his hands and was dismissive about it. So the GP called me into the surgery and asked me. Having read the pros and cons I said I'd be reluctant to go ahead with the new drug, but I'd attempt to ask dad (again!). Which I did. Eventually dad understood and more or less said 'no'.
Today I found out that the GP has once more asked dad about it, in my absence but with the CH manager there... (not the manager's fault, it was sprung on her during one of the GP's rounds). Apparently dad got confused, answered yes to everything, and only said 'no' once the manager calmly and quietly explained what the GP was asking.
Now the GP has decided he's going to ask dad about it again in 2 months time!
What is going on? Dad has dementia, and I've been acting as POA for 2 years... but it feels like the GP is a) ignoring me, and b) has no understanding of dad's illness. All he's doing is making dad agitated, revisiting the same question over and over. Plus the GP told dad that he's spoken to me about it, which means I've had angry phonecalls from dad, because (obviously) it's all my fault!
Don't even get me started about the GP asking dad about DNAR every 6 months. Every 6 months!!!
Maybe I'm being unreasonable (and I do understand that safe-guarding works both ways) but I'm not sure how to handle this any more :-(
Sorry for the long post, but I'd appreciate any suggestions.