Mum has mixed dementia (alz & vasc) and is also almost blind. She can't use either the cooker or the microwave at all. Despite this she claims she eats perfectly well and doesn't need meals on wheels. She lives alone without any help and the closest of her children lives 100 miles away. I visit regularly and tend to stay for two nights at a time. Last week mum said she felt the best she'd felt in a long time, she felt 'sharper' and certainly sounded a lot more positive and chipper. It took me a couple of days to work out what the difference was (and it really seemed to be a big difference). Then it dawned on me....she'd had a full week of proper nutrition with 3 good meals a day because my sister and I had visited back to back and we'd both fed her properly. My sister left on Monday of last week and by Friday mum was sounding pretty much back to "normal". I speak to her twice a day most days and you can hear the differences in her mood and health in her voice. I don't have the slightest doubt that eating properly is what made the difference and I just can't put into words how frustrated I am that mum can't see that she has to eat properly. I'm equally frustrated that SS just accept her word for it that she doesn't need help and that she's managing perfectly well on her own. Suggesting to her that she needs to eat better than she is just makes her angry. She was always difficult (thrawn) but has got worse as the dementia has got worse. Not good for my stress levels or my peace of mind.