Hi all, my mum has Parkinsons disease and dementia. She is 69 and living in a care home since December 2020. The care home has been under lockdown because of COVID for several weeks/months at a time on-and off in the last year. I have ECG status so have been able to maintain regular visits to mum. The latest lockdown was from Dec 2021 through to Apr 2022. We are now able to take mum out again for a cup of tea and cake, see old friends and wider family members. However, we are finding that according to the care home mum is very unsettled by the visits out. After the visits mum can get very unsettled to the point where she gets sweaty because she is that agitated, this has been heightened since going out of the home again. There have been times when after outings mum has become aggressive towards both staff and other residents both physically and verbally, this then unsettles mum more as she is aware after the event of what she has done and this is very much not her normal character.
I get that the dementia is the cause of the behaviour changes and this is to a certain extent to be expected as dementia progresses. But I wonder what to do about it. I believe it is right thing to do to take mum out of the home and see people as she remembers these visits more than if I just sit in her room with her and she often says she is in prison and doesn’t know what she did wrong. But this is clearly something that the home are struggling to manage afterwards and should I be trying to find a way to minimize the impact to them, or is it part of what we pay them for to handle mums care needs? Should I reconsider external visits and stick to visits in the home instead?
Many thanks in advance.
James
I get that the dementia is the cause of the behaviour changes and this is to a certain extent to be expected as dementia progresses. But I wonder what to do about it. I believe it is right thing to do to take mum out of the home and see people as she remembers these visits more than if I just sit in her room with her and she often says she is in prison and doesn’t know what she did wrong. But this is clearly something that the home are struggling to manage afterwards and should I be trying to find a way to minimize the impact to them, or is it part of what we pay them for to handle mums care needs? Should I reconsider external visits and stick to visits in the home instead?
Many thanks in advance.
James