Going back to what i know

Discussion in 'After dementia — dealing with loss' started by VickyG, May 5, 2015.

  1. VickyG

    VickyG Registered User

    Feb 6, 2013
    327
    Birmingham
    Quick update :

    I have tried a few other jobs but have decided to go back to what I know : Care.
    I am going back to the last home I worked at and where Mum was before I took her out and cared for her at mine 24/7 for 8 months prior to losing her to the awful disease known as Dementia.
    I have missed the care sector and maybe ( and yes, I may be mad lol ! ), it's what I am meant to do ?! we'll see........... i'll keep you all posted :D

    Vicky
    xx
     
  2. Tin

    Tin Registered User

    May 18, 2014
    4,815
    UK
    You are a very brave lady. Wishing you success in your 'new' venture.
     
  3. VickyG

    VickyG Registered User

    Feb 6, 2013
    327
    Birmingham
    Brave ? or stupid ? hmmmmmmm, thank you Tin :D
     
  4. patsy56

    patsy56 Registered User

    Jan 14, 2015
    839
    Fife Scotland
    you have such patience.
     
  5. Essie

    Essie Registered User

    Feb 11, 2015
    563
    Good for you Vicky - to be able to say at the end of every working day "I made a difference to the lives of all these people" and to do that by choice is lovely. Please do know how much that means to the people you will care for and their families.

    A carer at my Mum's home said that the she never thought of the work as 'hard' - as she said "It's what I love doing"
     
  6. WIFE

    WIFE Registered User

    May 23, 2014
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    Will be thinking of you VickyG - what a wonderful thing to be doing. WIFE
     
  7. Grannie G

    Grannie G Volunteer Moderator

    Apr 3, 2006
    69,869
    Kent
    If only more carers did the work because they wanted to .
     
  8. VickyG

    VickyG Registered User

    Feb 6, 2013
    327
    Birmingham
    I can honestly say I must have, that and the fact that I have been through it with my Mum, and also I have worked in Dementia care for around 15 years........ for me, it's not so much a 'job'
     
  9. VickyG

    VickyG Registered User

    Feb 6, 2013
    327
    Birmingham
    That's what it's all about for me Essie, knowing a difference has been made, even just the slightest teeny one
     
  10. VickyG

    VickyG Registered User

    Feb 6, 2013
    327
    Birmingham
    Thank you WIFE :)
     
  11. VickyG

    VickyG Registered User

    Feb 6, 2013
    327
    Birmingham
    Yes Grannie G, for me it's not just a 'job'......... What I don't get is, if you don't care about what you're doing, then why do it ?! I know for some, it's a means to an end, a 'job' , but the meagre pay is just a very small bonus !
     
  12. Rageddy Anne

    Rageddy Anne Registered User

    Feb 21, 2013
    5,984
    Cotswolds
    I have a wonderful relative who has always "cared" one way or another, for friends, family and naturally she was drawn into The Caring profession, terrible teenagers, elderly people...whatever, she really cares. Recently she had a landmark birthday, and over a hundred people who all have cause to love this amazing woman, gathered for a surprise party in her honour. Some people are natural carers, whether paid or simply by nature. Thank you, and all the other wonderful people.:)
     
  13. jaymor

    jaymor Volunteer Moderator

    Jul 14, 2006
    12,547
    Female
    England
    We have a daughter and granddaughter who both work in care. Our granddaughter was part way through a three year college course when her granddad went into nursing care.

    When she gained her qualifications and was applying for jobs which was proving difficult she decided to apply for a vacancy in my husband's nursing home to earn some money until she got the job she wanted. She said it was giving something back for the care my husband was getting.

    She has turned out to be a natural carer, she loves her job and wants to now take the exams to give her qualifications. Our daughter, her mother has now also joined the caring profession but out in the community, she has spent all her working life with animals. She too loves her job. Neither of them thought of caring before dementia and the need for care came into our lives.

    Our granddaughter works with dementia with challenging behaviour and our daughter cares for people dealing with many different disabilities including dementia. I am very proud of both of them.

    Well done VickyG and thank you for caring.
     
  14. LYN T

    LYN T Registered User

    Aug 30, 2012
    6,962
    Brixham Devon
    Well done Vicky; I won't wish you good luck as I don't think you will need it.:) However, I give you my thanks that there will be a lovely carer looking after those who need the help. With you setting such a good example to others they will see how caring should be done-if they don't already know.

    Please let us know how you get on

    Thanks again

    Lyn T XX
     
  15. VickyG

    VickyG Registered User

    Feb 6, 2013
    327
    Birmingham
    Wow Rageddy Anne ! She sounds like a wonderful person ! I know there are some brilliant caring people out there :)
     
  16. VickyG

    VickyG Registered User

    Feb 6, 2013
    327
    Birmingham
    Aww, that's lovely that you have such a caring family ! Tell your granddaughter to go for it and do her exams :)
    No need to thank me, I just do what I do, as do a lot of people that can or want to, be it paid or unpaid. Without people that actually care, what would the world be like ?!
     
  17. VickyG

    VickyG Registered User

    Feb 6, 2013
    327
    Birmingham
    Aww, thanks LYN T, very kind words my lovely :) Of course, I will let you know how things go. Hope you are keeping ok.... xx
     
  18. Grannie G

    Grannie G Volunteer Moderator

    Apr 3, 2006
    69,869
    Kent
    I hope it helps Vicky to know those of us who have had experience of wonderful carers working for minimum wages are beating the drum for better pay and conditions all the time.

    I had cause to complain of the hospital treatment my husband and we ,as his family , received just before he died.

    I asked why so many highly qualified and professional nurses were unable to display the sensitive handing skills I witnessed daily by care home carers , many on minimum wage.

    My husband cried out in pain when he was moved in the hospital but had little or no discomfort in his care home.

    There was no answer but there were a few red faces.
     
  19. VickyG

    VickyG Registered User

    Feb 6, 2013
    327
    Birmingham
    It's awful, nurses and HCA's on hospital wards do not have the skills or the time to give to those who have Dementia, it's very sad. It's all about money, that's what it mainly boils down to, that and the fact that SOME people who work in the health sector don't actually flipping care :mad:
    I know exactly what you mean about hospital stays..... My Mum spent 4 weeks on a hospital ward, it was horrendous. And she also had to go to A&E twice, absolute nightmare !
    I wish there were more resources / money / caring people out there.
     
  20. WIFE

    WIFE Registered User

    May 23, 2014
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    Have to say that on every occasion my husband was in hospital last year he was treated kindly, with consideration and courtesy. Maybe because I insisted on staying with him 24/7 dealing with the dementia side of things like his insistence on trying to "dock" the bed on the other side of the ward because the drugs made him feel he was on a boat and taking on most of his personal care. I too was looked after very well. Sorry for anyone who has a less than good memory of a hospital ward.
     

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