Having decided that I had come to the end of my tether with caring and at the point of walking out my husband reluctantly agreed full time care was the option. This was months after the medics and social worker agreed this was the way to go. It was agreed for him to go on extended respite which would give me a breathing space and give us the chance to look round for somewhere decent. I want to make sure we get the right place. However.....as many of you know I have a stepson who has other ideas and does not believe he should be in care even though everyone else does but can't come up with a solution to do anything better. Having got my husband used to the idea of going into care s.son has twisted everything around so my husband doesn't know if he is coming or going. I am trying to register an EPA with me as attorney on our jointly property and assets. S.son has already once taken my husband and got the EPA revoked in his and his brothers favour but when they discovered they couldn't do anything without my name on it it was changed back to my name. Now of course s.son is feeding my husband with all these little thoughts as to why his name should be on it. I am absolutely sick and tired of this but don't know who to turn to. I need someone that will act for my husband or make a decision on his behalf without this constant battle me and my s.son. Some of these things are legal some medical and while we have lots of experts in various fields there is no one moderator that can deal with all aspects. Is there someone I can appoint??? or is there an authority that has the power to sort this? My s.son cannot see reason and I'm just sick and tired of his interference.